Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Another opinion
An independent pathologist that has performed over 800 autopsies has volunteered to look at the autopsy and see if he can shed any light on the situation.
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
more
I don't have the autopsy in hand yet, but it was inconclusive. We will never know for sure what happened. It makes it harder for me to deal with this all, but I'll get over it. I am sure that her labored breathing, when I left her the night before, was something to do with it. I was beating myself up about it, that I didn't do more to make the nurses get the Dr., or something. I have gotten past that.
We know this:
The floor Doctor was notified about her condition sometime Wed. evening.
When she was checked on in her room at 4:45 a.m., she was already gone. They started CPR but she never regained a pulse.
She was not as mentally stable as we had expected those days after surgery. The Doctors expressed that she was doing good, but they didn't know her like we did.
Memorials still continue to come in. It will be interesting to see the total.
Her surgery was not directly the cause of her death, but it was hard on her body, and the time in the hospital lying down all the time did not help her.
We know this:
The floor Doctor was notified about her condition sometime Wed. evening.
When she was checked on in her room at 4:45 a.m., she was already gone. They started CPR but she never regained a pulse.
She was not as mentally stable as we had expected those days after surgery. The Doctors expressed that she was doing good, but they didn't know her like we did.
Memorials still continue to come in. It will be interesting to see the total.
Her surgery was not directly the cause of her death, but it was hard on her body, and the time in the hospital lying down all the time did not help her.
Monday, December 8, 2008
Update on the autopsy
I called Lutheran pathology today to give me an estimate on when we can expect the autopsy report. They informed me that it was already done and was sent to the surgeon. Ronna has contacted Mom's internist to get the results to her. Again, I'll post the cause of death once we know.
Saturday, December 6, 2008
Time, Reality, Discomfort and Prayer
Just looked back to what we were doing 3 weeks ago. That's the day we posted the pic of Mom & Ryan signing I Love You. It seems like SUCH a long time ago. In fact, none of that even seems real anymore. Rex made the comment last nite....it just does not feel like it really happened.
Randy/Anita/I majorly packed at the apartment today. As we left, I felt overwhelmed about what we had just done. Sorting through years of memories, sending out bags of trash & boxes to Goodwill, doling out mementos to family. Took years to accumulate and a couple of hours to disburse.
We spent some quality time with Uncle Leon/Aunt Phyl today. They have ALWAYS been there for our family...ALWAYS.
I am wearing mom's wedding band, the one my dad gave her. It fits me perfectly.
Rex is living amongst boxes and vanishing furniture. Can't be comfortable.
Join me in praying for a complete healing for Rex. That's the only thing that makes sense to me.
But I'm a human, and He is God.
And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well. James 5:15
The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective. James 5:16b
If you are reading, please comment. We need encouragement.
Randy/Anita/I majorly packed at the apartment today. As we left, I felt overwhelmed about what we had just done. Sorting through years of memories, sending out bags of trash & boxes to Goodwill, doling out mementos to family. Took years to accumulate and a couple of hours to disburse.
We spent some quality time with Uncle Leon/Aunt Phyl today. They have ALWAYS been there for our family...ALWAYS.
I am wearing mom's wedding band, the one my dad gave her. It fits me perfectly.
Rex is living amongst boxes and vanishing furniture. Can't be comfortable.
Join me in praying for a complete healing for Rex. That's the only thing that makes sense to me.
But I'm a human, and He is God.
And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well. James 5:15
The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective. James 5:16b
If you are reading, please comment. We need encouragement.
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
Moments burnt into my memory
Many hands closing the casket.
The Chapel parish nurse saying “press into Jesus”.
Merlinda’s final run of the keyboard at Mom’s service.
Three generations of family circled up, holding hands, and being challenged about their own faith and to pray for those not yet walking with our Lord.
Uncle Leon and Aunt Phyl immediately at Rex and my sides early Thursday morning.
Aunt Dorothy and her spirit-filled caretaker walking into Mom’s hospital room to visit.
Seeing tears in the eyes of the rehab hospital liaison that I had just interviewed with 3 days before.
Randy’s offer to carry Mom’s casket to her grave.
The faith conversation Tisha and I had on Saturday night.
Stacy and Dylan remaining at Mom’s bedside on Wednesday night while Ryan talked to me on the phone.
Randy telling me that Sara had come with them to the visitation.
Hobbs and Ritenour unity in decisions, plans, purpose and spirit.
Mom spreading out her hands in front of Roberta showing off her nail polish the day after surgery.
Seeing John & Mary Whitcraft the day of Mom’s surgery, there for another person’s surgery.
Ryan’s blog title Thursday morning of “God Has Made A Way!”, with him not even realizing Mom had named her own blog “God Will Make A Way” several weeks earlier.
The Chapel parish nurse saying “press into Jesus”.
Merlinda’s final run of the keyboard at Mom’s service.
Three generations of family circled up, holding hands, and being challenged about their own faith and to pray for those not yet walking with our Lord.
Uncle Leon and Aunt Phyl immediately at Rex and my sides early Thursday morning.
Aunt Dorothy and her spirit-filled caretaker walking into Mom’s hospital room to visit.
Seeing tears in the eyes of the rehab hospital liaison that I had just interviewed with 3 days before.
Randy’s offer to carry Mom’s casket to her grave.
The faith conversation Tisha and I had on Saturday night.
Stacy and Dylan remaining at Mom’s bedside on Wednesday night while Ryan talked to me on the phone.
Randy telling me that Sara had come with them to the visitation.
Hobbs and Ritenour unity in decisions, plans, purpose and spirit.
Mom spreading out her hands in front of Roberta showing off her nail polish the day after surgery.
Seeing John & Mary Whitcraft the day of Mom’s surgery, there for another person’s surgery.
Ryan’s blog title Thursday morning of “God Has Made A Way!”, with him not even realizing Mom had named her own blog “God Will Make A Way” several weeks earlier.
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
Rex is back in Indiana
If you are a Hoosier, come visit Rex in the next few weeks or invite him over. He got back tonite. He'll be moving to NC later this month. He's already given a lot of thought to what he needs to take with him and what will be given to others.
He wanted me to have Mom's bible that I gave her 11 years ago. I'll treasure that. Ryan, you questioned the funeral bulletin that said Mom read Psalm 91 to Anthony when he had cancer. I don't know that she read it TO him, but she prayed it FOR him and it's written in this Bible. We always called it Psalm 9-1-1 because it's a good one to go to when you need help.
He wanted me to have Mom's bible that I gave her 11 years ago. I'll treasure that. Ryan, you questioned the funeral bulletin that said Mom read Psalm 91 to Anthony when he had cancer. I don't know that she read it TO him, but she prayed it FOR him and it's written in this Bible. We always called it Psalm 9-1-1 because it's a good one to go to when you need help.
Sunday, November 30, 2008
A Letter to my Mom
Hi, Mom. I have lots of news to share, like always.
You know how the Bible says in all things God works for the good of those who love Him? And what the world intends for harm (death), God intends for good? Surely God is allowing you to see the good that is happening in your family in the aftermath of your graduation to heaven.
Just hours after your death, the 5 of us (3+Anita & Stacy) circled up in a hug in my house facing our shock and grief together for the first time. Did you see what happened next, Mom? That longstanding fractured relationship was healed! I sat and watched in awe.
A recent issue in the family was being withheld from you because we didn’t feel you could handle it. God had a plan in place that we can look back on now and see how it unfolded. Remember Merlinda was here a couple of weeks before your surgery? God used her mightily then to set the plan in motion. Then when she and her family flew in the day after your death, we all had a conversation in my house that laid the foundation for her entire family to be involved in positively altering the course of your granddaughter’s life. To look back and see how the pieces fit together is just amazing. MANY in our extended family were praying. The timing of all this is NOT a coincidence. I just read a book that Brock and Gwen gave to me at your visitation titled When God Winks at You, subtitled How God Speaks Directly to You Through the Power of Coincidence. The author calls them godwinks, you and I always called them God-incidences.
You know I’ve been looking for a new cross necklace for a couple of years. I bought one during your surgery in the hospital gift shop. I really don’t know why this one ended up being “the one”. A couple days later as I leaned over your bed to tell you goodnight, you held onto it and pushed it back and forth on the chain. I asked you if you wanted one and you nodded yes. I wanted to wait to buy it for you until you were out of ICU and could wear it. But that day never came. Anita really wanted me to go ahead and get it for you anyway. So the day of the visitation, I went back to the gift shop to get one, knowing there was only one on display the day I bought it. The ladies behind the counter told me they were volunteers and not involved in stocking the store. But one thought she knew where the box of jewelry was behind the counter, and sure enough, she found it. She sifted through all the bags until she found the one containing the cross necklaces. As she spread them out on the counter, I truly swear I did not see it. Suddenly she says, “Here it is!”. [Godwink] And it is now held in the hand of your earthly body. I feel a spiritual connection with you because of it. I know Anita does too, as she just nodded with tears in her eyes when she asked if I was able to find one for you. It has not left my neck since the day of your surgery.
When Tisha was in highschool, she bought you that snow globe with sunflowers and it plays You Are My Sunshine, the song you sang to both my girls for many years. She asked me if she could have it now as a remembrance. And I gave it to her. It not only connects her to you, but to Annette as well, as that is the song that was being sung when she died. As we left for the airport Monday, she placed it into the center of her carryon backpack, protecting it by surrounding it with her clothes. We never thought of the liquid inside that would keep it from passing through Security. We were running late for our flight. She had to hurriedly run back to the airline counter and check it as baggage (and pay $15 to do so). There were other issues with this flight, and we were stressed by the time we got seated. We both were concerned that globe would break because of the way baggage handlers toss bags around. Tisha kept saying, “It’ll be OK.” I prayed God would protect it and I just felt she was right, it was going to be OK. After we landed, she pulled that bag off the carousel and immediately checked the globe. It made the trip just fine!
You tried all summer to get our family together at your apartment for a dinner. I kept discouraging you because you really didn’t have the room, because of the fractured relationship, because I knew it was too much work for you. I’m so sorry now; if I only knew then what I know now, I would have stopped the road blocks and got on board. Now it appears we are going to get together as a family for Christmas with Rex. And Brittany said at your funeral service that she wants carols and candles. So we will have carols and candles. It will be a difficult day without you. You ARE the center of our family. We will cry as we carry on your tradition. I am taking more seriously my place to pass down the faith to the next generation and attempt to, in a small way, stand in the huge gap you have left here.
I feel I am at a crossroad again in my life. It’s life-altering to no longer have a parent here on earth. I feel very different. You are now a part of the great cloud of witnesses that surrounds me as I run with perseverance the race marked out for me. I was writing on your blog just the other day about the testing of my faith developing perseverance. No coincidence that I ran across that word 2 places in scripture in 2 weeks, but a godwink.
Love you,
Your favorite daughter!
You know how the Bible says in all things God works for the good of those who love Him? And what the world intends for harm (death), God intends for good? Surely God is allowing you to see the good that is happening in your family in the aftermath of your graduation to heaven.
Just hours after your death, the 5 of us (3+Anita & Stacy) circled up in a hug in my house facing our shock and grief together for the first time. Did you see what happened next, Mom? That longstanding fractured relationship was healed! I sat and watched in awe.
A recent issue in the family was being withheld from you because we didn’t feel you could handle it. God had a plan in place that we can look back on now and see how it unfolded. Remember Merlinda was here a couple of weeks before your surgery? God used her mightily then to set the plan in motion. Then when she and her family flew in the day after your death, we all had a conversation in my house that laid the foundation for her entire family to be involved in positively altering the course of your granddaughter’s life. To look back and see how the pieces fit together is just amazing. MANY in our extended family were praying. The timing of all this is NOT a coincidence. I just read a book that Brock and Gwen gave to me at your visitation titled When God Winks at You, subtitled How God Speaks Directly to You Through the Power of Coincidence. The author calls them godwinks, you and I always called them God-incidences.
You know I’ve been looking for a new cross necklace for a couple of years. I bought one during your surgery in the hospital gift shop. I really don’t know why this one ended up being “the one”. A couple days later as I leaned over your bed to tell you goodnight, you held onto it and pushed it back and forth on the chain. I asked you if you wanted one and you nodded yes. I wanted to wait to buy it for you until you were out of ICU and could wear it. But that day never came. Anita really wanted me to go ahead and get it for you anyway. So the day of the visitation, I went back to the gift shop to get one, knowing there was only one on display the day I bought it. The ladies behind the counter told me they were volunteers and not involved in stocking the store. But one thought she knew where the box of jewelry was behind the counter, and sure enough, she found it. She sifted through all the bags until she found the one containing the cross necklaces. As she spread them out on the counter, I truly swear I did not see it. Suddenly she says, “Here it is!”. [Godwink] And it is now held in the hand of your earthly body. I feel a spiritual connection with you because of it. I know Anita does too, as she just nodded with tears in her eyes when she asked if I was able to find one for you. It has not left my neck since the day of your surgery.
When Tisha was in highschool, she bought you that snow globe with sunflowers and it plays You Are My Sunshine, the song you sang to both my girls for many years. She asked me if she could have it now as a remembrance. And I gave it to her. It not only connects her to you, but to Annette as well, as that is the song that was being sung when she died. As we left for the airport Monday, she placed it into the center of her carryon backpack, protecting it by surrounding it with her clothes. We never thought of the liquid inside that would keep it from passing through Security. We were running late for our flight. She had to hurriedly run back to the airline counter and check it as baggage (and pay $15 to do so). There were other issues with this flight, and we were stressed by the time we got seated. We both were concerned that globe would break because of the way baggage handlers toss bags around. Tisha kept saying, “It’ll be OK.” I prayed God would protect it and I just felt she was right, it was going to be OK. After we landed, she pulled that bag off the carousel and immediately checked the globe. It made the trip just fine!
You tried all summer to get our family together at your apartment for a dinner. I kept discouraging you because you really didn’t have the room, because of the fractured relationship, because I knew it was too much work for you. I’m so sorry now; if I only knew then what I know now, I would have stopped the road blocks and got on board. Now it appears we are going to get together as a family for Christmas with Rex. And Brittany said at your funeral service that she wants carols and candles. So we will have carols and candles. It will be a difficult day without you. You ARE the center of our family. We will cry as we carry on your tradition. I am taking more seriously my place to pass down the faith to the next generation and attempt to, in a small way, stand in the huge gap you have left here.
I feel I am at a crossroad again in my life. It’s life-altering to no longer have a parent here on earth. I feel very different. You are now a part of the great cloud of witnesses that surrounds me as I run with perseverance the race marked out for me. I was writing on your blog just the other day about the testing of my faith developing perseverance. No coincidence that I ran across that word 2 places in scripture in 2 weeks, but a godwink.
Love you,
Your favorite daughter!
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
We're still here.
We haven't left this blog yet. We all continue to heal and think of Mom all the time. We keep thinking of calling or emailing her because it's hard to believe she's gone.
I want to post the summary of the autopsy when we get it, but it could take 2 weeks to 1 month before we get it. But any information I get I will post if I feel it's relevant. We know it wasn't cardiac/vascular/embolism/bowel obstruction.
Ryan
Hi, it's Ronna posting from Oregon! Getting some much needed peaceful rest and loving on my little boys. I just talked to Rex on the opposite coast in North Carolina. We have not posted much about Rex and I want to bring you up to speed a bit.
Greg & Stacy have made the offer for Rex to move to NC. Rex is considering and praying about it. I called today to assure him that he has the blessing of myself, and Randy and Ryan, and in fact we all feel it is the best for him to be near his family for a change (much closer to Merlinda too). He's still in the decision process, but we all feel he will eventually agree. Stacey is researching oncologists and they will be contacting Rex's Ft Wayne oncologist next week so that everything is in place once he decides.
Rex has an aggressive lymphoma that needs treatment asap. 12 weeks of chemo and radiation.
Please continue to pray for Rex as he deals with all of this.
I want to post the summary of the autopsy when we get it, but it could take 2 weeks to 1 month before we get it. But any information I get I will post if I feel it's relevant. We know it wasn't cardiac/vascular/embolism/bowel obstruction.
Ryan
Hi, it's Ronna posting from Oregon! Getting some much needed peaceful rest and loving on my little boys. I just talked to Rex on the opposite coast in North Carolina. We have not posted much about Rex and I want to bring you up to speed a bit.
Greg & Stacy have made the offer for Rex to move to NC. Rex is considering and praying about it. I called today to assure him that he has the blessing of myself, and Randy and Ryan, and in fact we all feel it is the best for him to be near his family for a change (much closer to Merlinda too). He's still in the decision process, but we all feel he will eventually agree. Stacey is researching oncologists and they will be contacting Rex's Ft Wayne oncologist next week so that everything is in place once he decides.
Rex has an aggressive lymphoma that needs treatment asap. 12 weeks of chemo and radiation.
Please continue to pray for Rex as he deals with all of this.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Just some things
Rex and Greg are on their way south, and Ronna and Tisha are in-flight to Oregon as I write.
Taking Mom's body to the grave. Randy and I are in the back, holding the end where Mom's head is at.
<<<--- audio of funeral on the left Other funeral Pictures Ardy's first husband's grave (with flowers from Mom's casket arrangement)
Ardy's parents' grave
Ardy's first in-laws' grave
Rex and kids - Ryan, Randy, Ronna, Rex, Greg
Grandchildren - Dylan, Cameron, Brittany, Kendra, Anthony, Sara, Alaina, Joel, Tandy, Tisha
Rex, daughter-in-law, and her kids - Joel, Karol, Kendra, Alaina, Merlinda, Rex
3 generations Hobbs - Joel, Rex, Greg
Ronna and her babies - Tandy, Ronna, Tisha
Another pic of grandkids here with a niece and nephew of Ardythe's- Dylan, Cameron, Brittany, Kendra, Anthony, Sara, Alaina, Joel, Robbie, Tandy, Crystal, Tisha
Other family - Rex, Bob & Gail Rogers, Phylis & Leon Ritenour
Cousins - Ryan, Merlinda, Allen, Randy, Kathy, Mike
Taking Mom's body to the grave. Randy and I are in the back, holding the end where Mom's head is at.
<<<--- audio of funeral on the left Other funeral Pictures Ardy's first husband's grave (with flowers from Mom's casket arrangement)
Ardy's parents' grave
Ardy's first in-laws' grave
Rex and kids - Ryan, Randy, Ronna, Rex, Greg
Grandchildren - Dylan, Cameron, Brittany, Kendra, Anthony, Sara, Alaina, Joel, Tandy, Tisha
Rex, daughter-in-law, and her kids - Joel, Karol, Kendra, Alaina, Merlinda, Rex
3 generations Hobbs - Joel, Rex, Greg
Ronna and her babies - Tandy, Ronna, Tisha
Another pic of grandkids here with a niece and nephew of Ardythe's- Dylan, Cameron, Brittany, Kendra, Anthony, Sara, Alaina, Joel, Robbie, Tandy, Crystal, Tisha
Other family - Rex, Bob & Gail Rogers, Phylis & Leon Ritenour
Cousins - Ryan, Merlinda, Allen, Randy, Kathy, Mike
Sunday, November 23, 2008
Celebration Day
I think I can speak for Rex, Greg, Randy/Anita, Ryan/Stacy....we are exhausted. Today was an AWESOME day! Mom's celebration service was joyful and full of rememberances. I have tons to share, but I am too tired tonite. Please keep checking back, I think we have much to say yet before we are done with this blog. We took a lot of pictures today too that I will eventually get on here.
Rex and Greg are leaving for North Carolina in the morning for a holiday visit with Greg's family. Please pray for Rex as he begins this transition in life and pray for his body to be protected for this time while his cancer treatment is being delayed.
I am flying to Oregon with Tisha tomorrow nite for the week as well. What a whirlwind of changes this week regarding that trip.
Ronna
Rex and Greg are leaving for North Carolina in the morning for a holiday visit with Greg's family. Please pray for Rex as he begins this transition in life and pray for his body to be protected for this time while his cancer treatment is being delayed.
I am flying to Oregon with Tisha tomorrow nite for the week as well. What a whirlwind of changes this week regarding that trip.
Ronna
Visitation over
It was a nice turnout of people, many we haven't seen in years. Mom's brother and his whole family showed up as well. He is the last surviving sibling of their large family. We noticed there were many gifts made to mom's charity and that would make her happy. We had a family only time at the beginning and saw mom's body. My younger 3 children had pictures and a poem to go into her casket before we closed it. Mom had seen Ronna's necklace while in ICU and wanted one. Ronna purchased one like it and put it in Mom's hands.
Obviously everyone was upset when we closed the casket and 2 of my children became very upset. This was their first close family death and it was naturally a big emotional time for them.
Today we will put her body in the ground. She will be buried in the same cemetery as her parents, my father, his parents, and her baby brother.
Obviously everyone was upset when we closed the casket and 2 of my children became very upset. This was their first close family death and it was naturally a big emotional time for them.
Today we will put her body in the ground. She will be buried in the same cemetery as her parents, my father, his parents, and her baby brother.
Friday, November 21, 2008
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I don't know what it is in me, but when people die, I want to know why. Since this is my Mom I get to find out. There was an autopsy. We have some preliminary data that it was not a stroke, heart attack, aneurysm or anything easy to determine. In a few days I will have the full report and can hopefully determine what happened.
send condolences
I don't know what it is in me, but when people die, I want to know why. Since this is my Mom I get to find out. There was an autopsy. We have some preliminary data that it was not a stroke, heart attack, aneurysm or anything easy to determine. In a few days I will have the full report and can hopefully determine what happened.
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Arrangement Information
Visitation is Saturday, 11/22, from 3 p.m. - 8 p.m. at Delaughter Mckee Funeral Home.
1401 State Road 114 W
North Manchester, IN 46962
Phone Number: (260) 982-6700
The funeral will be Sunday, 11/23, at 2 p.m. at Liberty Mills Church of the Brethren.
There will be one hour of visitation prior to the service.
71 N 3rd St,
Liberty Mills, IN 46946
Burial will follow at South Whitley Cemetary.
A dinner will be served following that at the church.
We have chosen a memorial fund in lieu of lots of flowers. Mom was close with many at the Liberty Mills Church that are involved in a ministry in Guatamala. Currently they are raising money for a well. Checks can be written to the Liberty Mills Church of the Brethren for the Guatamala Well Fund. Maybe it'll be named the Ardie Well.
1401 State Road 114 W
North Manchester, IN 46962
Phone Number: (260) 982-6700
The funeral will be Sunday, 11/23, at 2 p.m. at Liberty Mills Church of the Brethren.
There will be one hour of visitation prior to the service.
71 N 3rd St,
Liberty Mills, IN 46946
Burial will follow at South Whitley Cemetary.
A dinner will be served following that at the church.
We have chosen a memorial fund in lieu of lots of flowers. Mom was close with many at the Liberty Mills Church that are involved in a ministry in Guatamala. Currently they are raising money for a well. Checks can be written to the Liberty Mills Church of the Brethren for the Guatamala Well Fund. Maybe it'll be named the Ardie Well.
McKee/Delaughter Funeral Home
McKee/Delaughter funeral home in Manchester is making the arrangements. The service will be at Liberty Mills Church of the Brethren. We have an appointment at 6:30 tonite to make arrangements and then will let you all know.
GOD HAS MADE A WAY!
Glory be to God.
Mom went to be with the Lord this morning.
Yes it's true. It's difficult to believe. We don't know what happened. However I did not feel right about everything last night. I kept much of it to myself to not worry others. I thought it was just my irrational fears.
Last night was mom's worst night. While she talked to us and knew us, she was not really there. Now I know the Lord was calling her. She was so ready to go. Her only worry was Rex, but we will still be standing with him, as a family. This does not change that.
I want you to know that I feel this was for the best. All along I did not like the way Mom was. Us 3 kids got to see her before surgery. All of us saw her after surgery. There is no regrets.
Last night she was singing with some praise songs on the CD.
More will follow later when arrangements are made.
There is no doubt that she is in a better place. She is free from her sickly body. She's walking upright and in no pain.
Ryan, Randy, Ronna, and Rex
Mom went to be with the Lord this morning.
Yes it's true. It's difficult to believe. We don't know what happened. However I did not feel right about everything last night. I kept much of it to myself to not worry others. I thought it was just my irrational fears.
Last night was mom's worst night. While she talked to us and knew us, she was not really there. Now I know the Lord was calling her. She was so ready to go. Her only worry was Rex, but we will still be standing with him, as a family. This does not change that.
I want you to know that I feel this was for the best. All along I did not like the way Mom was. Us 3 kids got to see her before surgery. All of us saw her after surgery. There is no regrets.
Last night she was singing with some praise songs on the CD.
More will follow later when arrangements are made.
There is no doubt that she is in a better place. She is free from her sickly body. She's walking upright and in no pain.
Ryan, Randy, Ronna, and Rex
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Evening update
It's been a hard day for Mom. Rex spent the morning & part of the evening, I was there from 11-1, and Ryan, Stacy & Dylan from 5-8. She was running a low temp this morning, which broke after lunch. While I was there, PT got her up to stand and pivot to a bedside commode. She spent a rough 1/2 hour there. Very nauseous, dizzy & faint, as would be expected for the first time up a week after a big surgery. It was very hard to watch. She was so sick. Nurse gave her zofran for the nausea, and it took 3 nurses to get her back into bed because she had no strength to help at that point.
She moved to her new room about 4:30. Ryan said she was very quiet tonite, not wanting to talk, and back to fiddling with buttons and equipment. She vomited tonite too and said she was hot, so wondering if something new is going on. Time will tell.
Ryan said the nurse's station is right outside her door and they are very responsive. We're praying for good nurses because it's scary for us to picture her out of ICU, not having constant nursing attention. We're pretty discouraged tonite and hoping for a better day tomorrow.
A reminder if you are visiting...to not discuss Rex's cancer with her. She has not yet remembered, nor would she be able to comprehend or deal with it yet. I will post more about Rex after his oncologist appointment on Friday.
Please continue to pray for Randy's family.
She moved to her new room about 4:30. Ryan said she was very quiet tonite, not wanting to talk, and back to fiddling with buttons and equipment. She vomited tonite too and said she was hot, so wondering if something new is going on. Time will tell.
Ryan said the nurse's station is right outside her door and they are very responsive. We're praying for good nurses because it's scary for us to picture her out of ICU, not having constant nursing attention. We're pretty discouraged tonite and hoping for a better day tomorrow.
A reminder if you are visiting...to not discuss Rex's cancer with her. She has not yet remembered, nor would she be able to comprehend or deal with it yet. I will post more about Rex after his oncologist appointment on Friday.
Please continue to pray for Randy's family.
more
She's in a regular room now. I'll have to find out the visiting hours. I imagine they are 9-9 without restrictions. Her room is private. 359
Update
Mom is being moved to a regular room. The room number will be posted when we get it. It will still be on the 3rd floor.
My wife and I will be there tonight to give Ronna a much needed break.
My wife and I will be there tonight to give Ronna a much needed break.
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